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Alpha Female:

The alpha female  Re-understood

The Alpha Female has been misunderstood and maligned for years...
considered to be ruthless, selfish, overbearing, Machiavellian, manipulative, abusing sexual attractiveness to achieve goals, intimidating, dominating.....accused of being power-suited and aggressive. Even today, the Alpha Female is considered to be constantly driven and driving, perfectionistic and demanding perfection, lacking in understanding. compassion,  vulnerability and receptivity.

The Alpha Female has been likened to the Black Widow...who seduces and then eats her unsuspecting lover! But let's correct these myths. 

Let's observe the true Alpha Female, as she has evolved today, by describing the origin of the term…the Alpha Female wolf. 
In the wolf pack the Alpha Female is a born leader who innately knows that she is meant to lead the pack. The pack knows it too….from the moment she gambols, as a young wolf, with her pack mates. 

  •  She is courageous, strong and healthy. She is adventurous, yet reliable. 

  •  She is dependable, assertive and full of energy. She is playful, yet determined. 

  • She flexes and changes plans as circumstances change, yet stands firm against enemies and interlopers.

  • She loves her siblings and passionately protects her children….sometimes with her life. 

  • She is loyal to her mate, the Alpha Male wolf, and together they share all the leadership duties that keep the pack healthy, productive, happy and safe.  They both communicate well--with each other and with the rest of the pack. 

  • She is intuitively wise, knowing where to lead the pack to find a den for raising pups, and when to push the pups out to begin to make their way in the world.

  • When she is not bearing her children or watching them during their vulnerable ages, she is a strong and knowledgeable hunter. 

  • She delegates tasks well, sharing the major projects within the whole pack, male and female alike. Together with the Alpha male, she is a strategic innovator.

"Healthy wolves and healthy women share certain psychic characteristics: keen sensing, playful spirit, and a heightened capacity for devotion. Wolves and women are relational by nature, inquiring, possessed of great endurance and strength. They are deeply intuitive, intensely concerned with their young, their mate and their pack. They are experienced in adapting to constantly changing circumstances, they are fiercely stalwart and very brave." Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Women Who Run With the Wolves

"In spite of the negative press, wolves are almost the exact opposite of how they are portrayed. They are friendly, social, and highly intelligent. Their sense of family is strong and loyal, and they live by carefully defined rules and rituals.

Wolves are the epitome of the wild spirit. Their positive characteristics are so numerous it is no wonder that Native Americans and others practically deify them. Many believe that the true test of America's sincerity about protecting the environment will revolve around whether or not the wolf remains protected and is allowed to be reintroduced into areas of the country where it has heretofore been eliminated. The wolf is the true spirit of the free and unspoiled wilderness.

Wolves are very ritualistic--in as many ways as humans. They live by carefully defined rules. There are specific territories that are sacred. Their social behavior is based upon a hierarchical structure. Each has its place and function within the hierarchy. There is an 'alpha' male and an 'alpha' female. The wolf teaches us to know who we are and to develop strength, confidence and surety in that so that we do not have to demonstrate and prove ourselves to all.

Wolf packs are not entirely autocratic--under the supreme rule of the alpha member. Neither are they democratic. There are times when both occur, and it is this flexibility which adds to the success of the wolf government. Wolf can teach the lesson of proper governship--a balance between authority and democracy. Wolf helps us to understand that true freedom requires discipline.

The alpha male and female often mate for life. All members of the pack show great care and affection toward the playful pups. They are extremely tolerant. If the mother or father is unable to care for them, then another member will adopt the young. Some wolves will even serve as babysitters. Wolf medicine teaches respect and honor for family and for children.

The wolf has an extreme intelligence. It goes out of its way to avoid trouble or danger. When wolf shows up, it is time to breathe new life into your life rituals. Find a new path, take a new journey, take control of your life. You are the governor of your life. You create it and direct it. Do so with harmony and discipline, and then you will know the true spirit of freedom." Ted Andrews, Animal Speak

For one million years, Alpha Female wolves have evolved these superior characteristics.….
We would do well to learn from them. Click here to begin your journey....


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Commentary by
Bernie Prior

The Da Vinci code is popular for this reason alone ~ it is dawning in the human consciousness that the patriarchal time is over and now is the time for the feminine consciousness to come in and take its rightful place. That is, the feminine not only in woman, but also in man ~ the gentleness, the straightness, the depth and of course love and nurturing that is of the feminine. To nurture is woman’s true nature, whereas man hasn’t been nurturing anything apart from his ego.

So, the book is popular because we are seeing that we have not completely honoured & revered the feminine for the part 'She' plays, in the spiritual evolution of Mankind. Woman has been put on the back burner as far as religion is concerned. The world we have built hasn’t been built around the principle of the divine feminine, living from the heart, nurturing & honouring the Earth & all life. It has been built around an egoic male dominant direction, living purely from the intellect which is not connected with the heart. We have come to an end of that, and people are beginning to realise and want what we truly are; the balance of both male and female energies, true direction (male) coupled with the softness and tenderness of an open heart (female). As I have already stated these new times that we are entering are of the feminine, which will redress the balance of life on Earth.

This is already entering the human psyche, (causing a bit of a stir), but because the feminine is embodied as woman it really puts the emphasis on her that she is to be honoured. She 'is' the sacred doorway, and much more than that, she 'is' the Holy Grail in existence. In other words, the Holy Grail is the container in which love and life are actually taking place and being given birth to. Everyone knows that woman gives birth, everyone thinks that the Holy Grail is some cup that caught the blood of Christ; that is purely symbolic. It is actually woman. Woman is a cup, a container. Through the vagina in to her womb is the cosmic potential for true manifestation on Earth, the natural essence of the feminine to create.

The world is patriarchal but the earth is feminine, so we are realigning the feminine to her authentic place, to what is really natural. It is not about blaming, but simply about stating the truth, that a distortion has taken place regarding the glaring omission of the feminine from Jesus' teachings, if you were to believe the written word within the Bible. There are probably a lot of books lost, all pertaining to the feminine in existence, to her as the Holy Grail. She is the energy known in the East as the Shakti that manifests existence. Man cannot manifest in existence without woman, he needs Shakti energy, but he has to receive it through living in truth in honouring this power that woman truly is.

The Da Vinci Code is so striking because it reveals the act of making love as the gateway in to the Grail, where the true union of masculine and feminine energy in to God, or the Absolute takes place. And I am saying the embodiment of the Grail is Woman on Earth, the gateway to God in existence. Woman being the Holy Grail, Jesus could not complete his mission without her because there would be no Earth to speak of. She being the Shakti and giving birth even to him requires the embodiment of the feminine principle, his other half, the Christ as feminine. Then man would have to see the sacredness and honour the feminine with far greater respect as some of the pagan religions did, putting her in her rightful place with no more abuse of her whatsoever.
It is this knowledge of the feminine that the church fathers have hidden for thousands of
years. The revelation of this within the Da Vinci Code has released a new power to love
in to the human psyche. It is this that is the magnetism of the book.

Copyright the Bernie Prior Foundation

Far across the tanana, a mile or two to the south of us, a group of wolves were singing. I call it singing, not howling, for that is what it was like. We could distinguish three, perhaps four voices - wavering, ascending in pitch, each one following the other, until they all broke off in a confused chorus. Their voices sank into distant echoes on the frozen river, and began again. A light and uncertain wind was blowing out there, and the sound grew and faded as the air brought it toward us or carried it away southward. It might have come across a thousand years of ice and wind-packed snow, traveling as the light of the stars from a source no longer there.

John Haines; the stars, the snow, the fire

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"Electing women to positions of political power does not in itself guarantee the expression of a feminine voice in the external world. Once in power, women can be tempted to conspire with the paternalistic system that they feel has so magnanimously allowed them a place at the table.  They feel compelled to be strong men among strong men.”    Marianne Williamson






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